Sunday, 11 March 2018

People Pleasers

You can please some people most of the time
all of the people some of the time
but all people at all times?
'people pleasers' beware!
you are not God
Can't please everyone at all times
perhaps even God wouldn't want to do that!

In the mad frenzy to please
many lose physical health
mental and emotional health
so much easier and healthy it is
to just be yourself, do what pleases you
and in that bargain if some are pleased
so be it, It is a bonus.....

NB:Anita Moorjani, cancer beater and author of the book "Dying to be me" credits her then nature of 'people pleasing' as the cause of the  cancer.leading to a near death experience (NDE).

Thursday, 15 February 2018

Captivating Lines from Here and There- 18

  • Revealing your business means educating people about what you do. Reveal the business nobody knows by telling people what you are all about. You still have to be brief, clear and interesting of course. But if you tell your story,you will win more loyal customers than if you don't- From the book "The 7 lost secrets of success by Joe Vitale, 
  • People are logical and emotional.You have to appeal to both sides to capture their loyalty.
  • People love experts.Authorities are more easily listened to because we assume they know what they are talking about. Become an authorized expert in your field and you are seen as a type of God-  From "The 7  lost secrets of success"
  • Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things.... I am tempted to think...there are no little things- Bruce Barton;Author & advertising executive
  • Martin Seligman's (Father of positive psychology) research suggests that people get a boost in personal happiness when they use their signature strengths regularly and in new and creative ways- Dave and Wendy Ulrich, Authors
  • Form a mental image or picture of yourself as being well, imagining a perfectly strong and healthy body- Spend sufficient time in contemplating this image to make it your habitual thought of yourself- Wallace.D.Wattles, Author " Science of being well"
  • Any one who can't think of a story about their company culture or customers is spending too much time in their office and not enough time with the real people who live in the world he or she wants to influence- Annette Simmons, Author of  "Who ever tells the best story wins"
  • Graphics tidy up reality whereas stories reveal the mess. Avoiding messy reality keeps your message clear but shallow- Annette Simmons. Author 
  • The four deadly horsemen are criticism,contempt,defensiveness and stonewalling. Spouses, bosses and friends can go a long way to improve the emotional climate in a given setting by avoiding the four deadly horsemen- Dave Ulrich, Author
  • Leaders who are shaming,critical or grumpy may evoke a lot of action, but not necessarily a lot of learning and real productivity-  Dave and Wendy Ulrich, Authors

Sunday, 11 February 2018


When you insult me
ignore, belittle,misbehave
it looks like you have
won, made a point

Yet before it reaches me
all the negatives taking birth
and passing through you
do more harm to you,
than it will ever do me;

It is you who end up
drinking a lot of water
for diluting the darkness inside!

NB: This poem is inspired by the teachings of BK (Brahmakumaris)

Thursday, 8 February 2018

Winter and Spring

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I have a friend
he has his problems
both personal and professional
yet the tagline on his profile reads
" This too shall  pass"

Wallowing on the winter state, versus
expectantly awaiting the spring
makes all the difference
if it is winter now
can spring be far behind?

Tuesday, 30 January 2018

Some Thoughts on the Book- Nature at my Doorstep

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It is not often that you come across books that showcase more than one talent. In the blogging circles, artists like Mallika Chari, Deepa Gopal Sunil and Sethi Krishan Chand also write verses. However, their first passion is their art. In respect of the author of "Nature at my Doorstep", Latha Prem Sakhya, I believe her first love is poetry followed by painting. Her maiden book "Memory Rain" was a poetry collection published in 2008 by Roots and Wings. She has published subsequently a third book "Vernal Strokes" through Partridge publishing.

In the book under discussion,the author has chosen to include prose also along with poetry and painting. The one thing that is clear even on a cursory glance of the book is that it is steeped in nature. There is a narration by the protagonist  Kanaka, tracing her life from childhood, adolescence and later years. She grew up amidst nature with plenty of flora and fauna. Seeing the sheer authenticity of the narrative, one suspects that there is an autobiographical streak in the narrative of the author.

The reader can be initially confused. Does one read the book page by page or focus first on the poetry or should it be the narrative followed by poetry and painting? As for me, I started reading the story of Kanaka and was hooked. I had no choice but to read the narrative fully before biting into the poetry and relishing the painting. Another reader may choose differently. After all when a feast is laid out, some instantly go in for the sweet while others prefer to save it for the last.

The narration about the life and times of Kanaka is full of anecdotes featuring the naughty times of childhood, the joint family scenario and Kanaka's love for plants and animals. This excerpt gives an idea of the content of the prose "Belonging to a large family, with grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins, her home was full of people.Life was always filled with excitement, fun and laughter, sometimes tinges with tears and sorrows."

Now lets us also take a look at Kanaka's thoughts in later life- "Kanaka had always been haunted by the other self that resided deep within her. A wild, wild self, curbed and imprisoned within the inner space of her sophisticated self."

Moving on to the poetry, the poet's sensitive nature can be seen in the poem titled "Why are you so crazy"?

Why are you so crazy?
Matters negligible to others
Trouble and torment you
What makes you so sensitive, lassie
To others' as well as your problems?

In the poem "New Nest" she writes

In a tiny nest, the she birds's pride-
Geared up for her first flight,
with mounting excitement
Wings gathering balance

The relationship of the poet with birds and nature in general is revealed by the lines

Landing gracefully
On my kitchen veranda,
He pecks on the rice daintily,
While I watch with awe and wonder,
Nature at my door step. 

Now, for a glimpse of the poet's love poems:

The azure sky,
Streaked with gold-
In an orange -blue sari,
Made me yearn to drape it
And waltz down the street,
Showing off to my friends
Our intimacy.

Your Love for me

Your love for me
Is like the air I breathe,
I do not see but I feel.
It keeps me sailing

Softens my speech.
Fills me with generosity,
To forgive and to forget-
Even soul hurts.

There are many more impactful poems in the book including "The Lord of the Night". However, I will finally quote a few lines from a poem that caused an ache in my heart. It discusses putting away of a sick animal/ pet (mercy killing?)

Shall I Let her Go? 

My heart bleeding for her,
I threw the noose around her neck
The animal trust and love unconditional

A Judas, I betrayed her
With the lethal shot
Whimpering she fell down
Her large eyes fixed on me.
Tears pouring down my cheeks
I hastened away, cursing my life, my job.

The paintings in the book are a combination of those on oil on canvas and the black & white caricatures of nature in all her splendour. I am not reproducing any of those here; you will simply have to grab a copy from the publishers to savour them.

To conclude,"Nature at my Doorstep" is a wonderful treat satisfying the pallet and tastes of  most readers as it  makes available a heady mix of prose, poetry and painting. Readers of all ages are bound to find the book interesting and engaging. One can have an eventful journey amidst nature while at the same time enjoying  the varied hues of life.

Nature at my Door Step : Published in 2011
Author: Latha Prem Sakhya
Publisher: Roots & Wings
ISBN :  978-81-909900-3-5

Wednesday, 24 January 2018


In an earlier time, the anonymous
with poor self esteem, craving some attention
wrote and drew on public spaces- walls, desks,
toilet doors of passenger trains...

Response to them from the general public
was at best aversion, contempt or disgust
covering their noses to escape
from the stink they eminated

Now, the very same people
rather their current versions
are seemingly being noticed
getting respectability in the
current new world of social media

So there you have, plenty of trolls
memes and  the like, hiding behind
the safety of anonymity, hitting out
particularly at women, political rivals
and those having independant viewpoints

But will this last, will anyone care
after the intial curiosity & interest wears of ?
Most likely, most people will turn away
and  the spineless specimen
will end up with what they have always had

and  always deserved
aversion, disgust, contempt
and finally, total indifference!

Thursday, 18 January 2018

What are we coming to?

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Messages with frequent use
of words like "Awesome", "Super" "Fantastic"
followed by ten exclamation marks!
and five or more heart symbols....

If coming from the heart
wouldn't a simple "loved it"
followed by a single exclamation mark do?

With so much  phoniness all around
how does one know, how much
of what's said is genuine, how much pretence?
Wonder where we are going,what are we coming to? 

Saturday, 13 January 2018

Captivating Lines from Here and There- 17

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  • For every letter we write, you want to keep the audience in mind, the people who are going to be  receiving the letter. speak in their language and keep their concerns in mind and you want to merge with that to the best of your ability- Bruce Barton, Author, advertising executive & politician 
  • In good times people want to advertise; in bad times they have to- Bruce Barton 
  • The real tragedy of life is when people are are afraid of the light- Plato, Philosopher 
  • Appreciative inquiry can be as simple as having a conversation asking people to tell you their stories of what is working and respond with interest and enthusiasm- Sue Harris Hammond, Author of the book "The thin book of Appreciative inquiry" 
  • A person's way of doing things is the direct result of the way he things about things- Wallace.D.Wattles, Author 
  • You will have to acquire the ability to think the way you want to think- Wallace. D Wattles (सोचकर सोचना - Read my post: 
  • Guard your speech. Never speak of yourself, your affairs or of anything else in a discouraged or discouraging way- Wallace. D Wattles
  • The leader of the past knew how to tell. The leader of the future will know how to ask- Peter Drucker, Management Guru 
  • Thw world will not become a better place because we learn; the world will only become a better place only when we do- Marshall Goldsmith, Author and Executive coach 
  • He who has a why to live can bear with almost any how - Fredrick Nietzsche, Philosopher & Scholar

Tuesday, 9 January 2018


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In line with the times
anything and everything
is getting the 'ignore' treatment
this is true even for
beings and things you
yourself, invited in to your lives

So the obedient, helpless alarm
keeps ringing and blaring
initially, and at frequent intervals
only to be ignored, paid the least heed

if not interested, why set the poor alarm
in the first place...?